Cheering really does help!
Sports teams have cheerleaders, rugby teams have their Hakas, kids have their Lolas! Sure you're cute and talented and all that, but without a really good push it's really harder to get where you want to be.
So this new year where do you want to be? Do you want to lose weight? Want to improve your career or earn more money? Do you want to finally tie the knot if not find someone to tie it with? Well whatever it is you wish for to improve this 2011, let me give you some "cheers" or mantras, words to say to yourself to help lift you up to that level of improvement.
Say these words when you feel down or discouraged or in need of direction. It has defintely helped me along with my clients whom I have been able to share these messages. So put in mind these words, write them down
if you must.
"My success or failure in life depends on me"
You see them all the time. They're the ones when you see coming towards you you wish you could run the opposite direction.
They're the negaholics.
People who keep blaming almost everything else for their woes in life; their economy, their neighbor, the weather and spouse, eveything else except themselves. If there was truly one important first lesson that I learned late in life it was that whatever and whoever I am in life is due to a composite of all my decisions and actions as well as the people who I chose to be with.
Nothing else.
This new decade offers nothing less. Where you want to be is not due to any roll of a dice but rather a conscious acceptance that your choices outline your direction. You are where you are because you chose to be at that place at that time. Thhe good news is you can change your life once you accept responsibility for all your decisions and actions. And that changes everything.
"No one else can make me happy other than myself"
A wife once said that in her first 6 months of marriage she believed that her husband would finally make her happy. Apparently with her husband's very busy schedule she was terribly disappointed. That was until she accepted mantra number 1 then moved to number 2. She says now she is at her happiest ever, and that her husband adds to her wedded bliss.
You see the negaholics truly believe that once they marry this person or move to this country or work in this company they would finally be happy. Cue buzzer again.
Being happy is like being in love. Only you can conjure the emotion from within. And although someone or something external can evoke the stimuli, it is eventually you who will decide to let this emotion progress or not. Apparently it's also like being drunk; you choose to just be buzzed or be totally wasted. It's not the choice the alcohol had to make.
"If others doubt, I can; If I doubt, I will."
You can take the word doubt in different forms; it can be fear, apprehension or hesitation, but whatever the case may be doubt is such a powerful word that it completely disables you from taking the next big step.
"Can I handle this bigger responsibility?"
"Will people buy this idea?"
"Will I accomplish this project?"
You will have either one or both of the two types of doubt. One is other people's doubts, this is the fear of criticism. People will always question if you can do, become or be worthy of this and that, and this plays a virtual chess match in your head. It stops you from moving forward even move at all.
The next form doubt is that of self. Can I do it? Can I even finish it in time? Will people support me?
My answer to other's doubts is "SO WHAT?" If they believe I can't do it, does it have a huge impact in my ability to achieve? Turn back to mantra numbers 1 and 2 and you'll see what I mean. I hate to be a clichè but just go ahead and do it!
Self doubt on the other hand is the result of psychological & physiological inactivity, in short, you're just being lazy! Put all your energy in a forceful and enthusiastic start and carry over that energy forward but you have to have a start. Sometimes people doubt themselves simply because they haven't tried it yet. I once took my kids to a Japanese restaurant because I wanted them to try different things and experiences. I never told them what they were eating except that all of them was good. I let them try Sashimi, Tempura and several kinds of sushi. A day after that they said they wanted to eat Japanese again without knowing they were having raw tuna and fried okra.
When people doubt you say "I can do this!" when you doubt yourself you say "I will do this!"
Then to carry you through this new decade once you master these 3 mantras, remember the one line that makes everything else possible. The one line that will fuel your drive, give you strength and keep you in the right course;
"The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want.."
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